If you are reading this, chances are you have already thought about becoming a surrogate.
Maybe the idea has lived in the back of your mind for months or even years. You know you want to help someone build a family, and you know you have the heart for it. But between your career, your kids, your partner, and everything else that fills your days, one question keeps coming up: how would surrogacy actually fit into my life?
The answer may surprise you.
Surrogacy is not something that requires you to put your life on pause. With the right agency and the right support, it becomes part of the life you are already living, and for many women, it enhances that life in ways they never expected. If you are wondering whether you qualify to become a surrogate, the first step is simpler than you might think.
Your Life Does Not Stop When Surrogacy Starts
One of the biggest misconceptions about surrogacy is that it demands a complete lifestyle overhaul. In reality, most surrogates continue working full time throughout their pregnancy, well into the third trimester, just as they did when they were carrying their own children. Stay-at-home mothers pursue surrogacy just as successfully, caring for their families while helping another family grow at the same time.
At ABC Surrogacy, we take your employment, your family situation, and your daily routine into account during the matching process. Your intended parents will understand and respect the life you have built, and our team handles the coordination of logistics, medical scheduling, legal processes, and communication so that you are supported rather than overwhelmed. The surrogacy process typically takes 14 to 18 months from application to delivery, and our team walks you through every phase so you always know what to expect. You have already been through pregnancy before. This time, you will have an entire team behind you making sure every detail is taken care of while you focus on what matters most.
Achieving Your Financial Goals While Helping Others Achieve Theirs
Becoming a surrogate is an act of extraordinary generosity, and it is also an opportunity to create meaningful financial stability for your own family. ABC Surrogacy offers a base compensation of $60,000 to $70,000+ for first time surrogates, with total compensation packages reaching $85,000 or more when you factor in allowances and bonuses. New surrogates also receive a $4,000 bonus, and all pregnancy related expenses, including medical costs, legal fees, travel, and insurance, are covered entirely by the intended parents. You will never pay out of pocket for anything related to your surrogacy journey.
What makes this compensation truly powerful is what it allows you to do.
Surrogates use their earnings to pay off debt, build college savings for their children, make a down payment on a home, go back to school, or even start a small business.
Surrogacy does not just help another family reach their dream. It gives you the financial foundation to reach yours.
A Journey That Changes You for the Better
Beyond the financial rewards, surrogates consistently describe the experience as one of the most personally transformative things they have ever done. Women who complete a surrogacy journey report feeling stronger, more confident, and more capable than they felt before they started. The process of navigating medical decisions, legal agreements, and the emotional landscape of carrying a child for someone else builds a kind of self-advocacy and resilience that stays with you long after delivery.
This is not anecdotal.
A study published in Human Reproduction by Oxford Academic followed UK surrogates for up to two decades after their journeys and found that the positive effects on identity, confidence, and personal growth were still present years later.
Many of the women in the study said surrogacy shaped who they became, and that the experience of doing something “out of the ordinary” gave them the confidence to take on other challenges in life they might not have attempted otherwise.
At ABC Surrogacy, our founders bring over 30 years of combined personal and professional surrogacy experience to every interaction. They understand the depth of this transformation because they have lived it themselves, and they are committed to making sure your journey is just as meaningful.
Bonds That Go Beyond the Journey
Surrogacy creates relationships that most people never get to experience. The bond between a surrogate and her intended parents is built on trust, shared purpose, and a level of mutual respect that is unlike any other relationship. At ABC Surrogacy, we facilitate pre-match meetings so that you and your intended parents can connect and get to know each other before the official match is made.
You are not just assigned to a family. You choose who you want to help, and you build that relationship on a foundation of genuine connection from the very beginning.
Beyond the intended parent relationship, surrogacy introduces you to a community of women who understand exactly what you are going through. Many surrogates describe this network as a sisterhood, a group of women who support, encourage, and celebrate each other through every milestone.
The experience can also bring you and your own partner closer together, as the journey requires deeper communication, teamwork, and mutual support that strengthens the foundation of your relationship.
Teaching Your Children What It Means to Give
One of the most meaningful aspects of surrogacy that often goes unmentioned is the impact it has on your own children.
Because surrogates are women who have already had successful pregnancies and are currently raising their own kids, your children will witness your journey firsthand. They will see you make a long term commitment to another family.
They will watch you navigate something challenging and rewarding at the same time. And they will learn, in real time, what generosity, compassion, and selflessness look like in action.
Many surrogates say that the lessons their children absorb during the journey are among the most lasting benefits of the entire experience. Your kids come away with a deeper understanding of what makes a family, how people can support one another, and why helping others matters.
For women whose own families are already complete, surrogacy offers a way to experience the wonder of pregnancy again while leaving a legacy of purpose that extends far beyond the nine months of carrying a child.
Your Next Step
Surrogacy is not something that takes away from your life. It is something that adds to it, financially, personally, emotionally, and in ways you may not fully understand until you have experienced it yourself. At ABC Surrogacy, we are a privately and independently owned agency built by women who have walked this path. We provide dedicated case management, competitive compensation, a surrogate driven matching process, and a community that treats you like family from the moment you reach out.
If you have been thinking about surrogacy, we would love to talk with you. There is no commitment required to start the conversation. Call us at (323) 207-5762 or start your surrogacy journey today to learn more about what your journey could look like. Still have questions? Visit our Surrogate FAQs for answers to the most common things prospective surrogates want to know. The life you have built is already full. Surrogacy simply makes it fuller.